Conflict Skills for Successful Relationships

The missing piece for couples struggling with conflict. Guided activities, partner conversations, and workbook tools that pair with the Gottmans' conflict skill material so that your relationship can finally find a calmer, more loving center.

In This Course, You'll Learn:

How to Fight in Ways That Strengthen Your Relationship

Discover the communication secrets that successful couples use to navigate conflicts productively, replacing frustration and hurt with understanding and collaborative problem-solving

Skills to Transform Conflict Into Connection

Master conflict resolution techniques that transform heated arguments into opportunities for deeper connection and understanding

How to Break the Cycle of Painful Disagreements

End the cycle of repetitive fights with proven techniques that transform how you communicate during conflict, helping you resolve issues faster while actually strengthening your relationship instead of damaging it.

About the Course

Here's what no one tells you about reading a relationship book as a couple: Understanding the problem and practicing the solution are two completely different things, and this self paced course can help you accomplish both. Each module pairs with a chapter of Julie Gottman's Fight Right and gives you what the book alone cannot: Accountability for both partners, structured exercises to practice together, and content above and beyond what the book offers. This self-paced course was built specifically for couples who want to take the relationship concepts from the book and find ways to actually make them work in a real Tuesday night argument. No retreat. No waitlist. No expensive price tag. Just the practice layer the book was always missing. Enroll and start tonight.

About Your Instructor

I'm David Lechnyr, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Gottman Therapist. I've spent over 20 years watching couples who fully understood their conflict patterns still struggle to change them in the moment it counted, and that gap between knowing and doing became the problem I built my practice around. I don't believe in endless processing; I believe in identifying what's broken and teaching you the concrete skills to fix it. This course is the structured practice layer I kept wishing couples had access to before they needed a therapy or hit a crisis point. If you're willing to do the work, I'll give you the tools.

Course Content

11 Chapters · 86 Lessons

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  Welcome
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  How to Benefit the Most From this Program
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  Copyright & Disclaimer
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  Your Fights Aren't Broken. Your Goal Might Be.
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  We Recognized Ourselves in the Bad Patterns. Now What?
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  Why You Can Know All of This and Still End Up in the Same Place
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  If You're the Only One Doing This Right Now
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  Week 1 Workbook
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  You've Been Fighting the Wrong Enemy
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  The Moment Anger Turns Into Something Else
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  Your Fights Will Never Stop (That's the Point)
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  The Rulebook You Didn't Know You Had
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  When Keeping the Peace Is Actually Keeping You Apart
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  Week 2 Workbook
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  Your Style Is a Language, Not a Character Flaw
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  Your Conflict Rules Were Written Before You Could Read
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  The Mismatch That Goes Deeper Than Style
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  Why Five-to-One Isn't Math
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  The Stage Every Style Skips
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  The Line Between Volatile and Hostile
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  Point It at Yourself First
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  Week 3 Workbook
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  Why Understanding Your Fights Doesn't Stop Them
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  The Bid That Doesn't Look Like One
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  What Happens After the Bid Gets Missed
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  How to Tell Which Fight You're Actually In
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  The Dream Inside the Position
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  Why Good Efforts Disappear
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  The Belief That Turns Perpetual Problems Into Crises
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  Before You Sit Down Together
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  What You'll Be Walking Through
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  Week 4 Workbook
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  You Know the Right Thing to Say. So Why Does It Come Out Wrong?
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  Why Your Brain Gave Up After Three Minutes
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  The Feeling You're Supposed to Lead With Isn't the One You're Currently Feeling
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  The Complaints You Saved Up Are the Real Weapon Here
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  While You Were Listening, Your Brain Was Already Arguing
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  Your Version of Soft Isn't Your Partner's Version of Safe
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  You Already Started Harsh. That Doesn't Mean the Fight Is Over.
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  Before You Have This Conversation, Each of You Has Work to Do Alone
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  Here's What Most Couples Discover on the First Attempt
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  Week 5 Workbook
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  Your Body Already Called This Fight
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  Why You Can Only Say Your Worst Lines When It Matters Most
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  The Flooding Direction Nobody Talks About
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  The Break That Keeps You Flooded
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  When One of You Floods in 30 Seconds and the Other Is Just Getting Started
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  The Sixty Seconds That Decide Whether the Break Worked
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  Why Good Repairs Don't Land (It's Not the Repair)
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  You're Not Here to Resolve This
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  Before You Sit Down Together
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  Prepare For Something Real
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  Week 6 Workbook
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  You've Tried Everything and It Keeps Coming Back
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  Not Every Recurring Fight Is Gridlock
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  Why Your Solutions Keep Failing
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  You're Arguing for a Position You Haven't Fully Named Yet
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  The Difference Between Arguing Your Case and Telling Your Story
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  Asking Without Arguing Back
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  What to Do When You Don't Have an Answer
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  What you Might Discover
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  Week 7 Workbook
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  The Problem Isn't That You Disagree. It's That You're Both Certain.
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  Are You the One Who Won't Move?
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  Your Non-Negotiables Might Be Lying to You
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  What Accepting Influence Actually Looks Like When You're In It
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  When the Real Problem Is Trust
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  The Agreement You Made Won't Survive Tuesday
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  Before You Sit Down Together, Do This First
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  How This Might Go
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  Week 8 Workbook
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  Moving On Is the Worst Thing You Can Do
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  Why "Right Now" Is Probably the Wrong Time
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  Feelings Without Reasons: The Move That Feels Wrong and Works Anyway
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  Your Partner Is Not Misremembering
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  The Fight Behind the Fight: Where Your Biggest Reactions Actually Come From
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  Why Your Apology Isn't Landing
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  When You're Headed Back Into the Fight: Three Signs and What to Do
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  Before You Sit Down Together: Do This First
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  Here's What Probably Will Happen
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  Week 9 Workbook
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  You Finished Ten Courses. The Practice Is Just Starting.
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  Stop Measuring Your Fights by How They Begin
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  The One Move That Makes All the Other Skills Work
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  What You've Built, and Where It Takes You Next
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  The Recovery Log

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Exclusively designed for use alongside Julie Gottman's Book, Fight Right

This program is an independently created companion to the book Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict into Connection by Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD and John Gottman, PhD (Harmony Books, an imprint of Penguin Random House LLC, 2024). It has not been authorized, licensed, reviewed, or endorsed by the authors, Harmony Books, Penguin Random House LLC, or The Gottman Institute. It does not reproduce the book's text and is not a substitute for reading it.